Before I say anything else, I want you to remember that I love you and care about you, regardless of our political differences. You, as a person, are way more important to me than any opinion I might ever have. We both knew we had differences when we met. In fact, many of you were surprised that I was so open to becoming your friend. But you became my friend because I like you despite our differences…and in some cases, because of our differences. And those of you who really know me well, know I’m totally sincere in that.
We agree way much more than the media would like for anyone to know. I totally agree that we all have the right to define our family as we see fit. At least we HAD that right. It’s disgusting to me that we’ve sold ourselves into slavery to the insurance companies. And I know that was a REALLY strong statement. But why do we let the insurance companies decide for us who is in our family and who is not?? If I wanted to add my mom to my “Family” coverage when she was living in my household, who is the insurance company to say that she’s not part of my family?? If our nanny, who is like a daughter to us, moves in with us and I want to add her to my policy, why shouldn’t I be able to?? And the same with your partners. If you choose to live as a family, who is the insurance company to say that you aren’t? And why do we tolerate it? You shouldn’t have to get a marriage certificate to conform to their standards. The same goes for hospital visitation privileges, court proceedings, and all manner of family decisions that we’ve handed over to industry and the government.
But here’s where we respectfully disagree – I strongly believe that God defined marriage at creation. I know that’s not a persuasive argument if you don’t believe in God, or creation, but I can’t pretend like I don’t believe it. To me, marriage is a covenant (a promise stronger than a contract, with God providing all contractual consideration) between God, and a man, and a woman. I don’t know why, but that was His design and definition. To my knowledge, He has never bestowed on any human the right to change His definitions. No person or government has the right to do that. You can try to call a relationship between two men or two women a marriage, but that just doesn’t make it so. The truth is the truth no matter what you call it. I think we could even call it a family, that term is much more fluid, meaning different things in different cultures, but not a marriage.
Now that I’ve stated our disagreement plainly, this is where all sorts of ugliness usually creeps in. But I don’t believe in all that either. I know you’ve been subjected to every kind of hate from people who share my opinion on the gay marriage issue. Please believe me when I say, that’s about the only thing we agree on. I don’t hate you and I don’t believe that God hates you. I don’t wish you harm or ill. I don’t think you’re a lower class citizen who should be discriminated against. I only want the very best for you. The God I believe in loves you very much. He’s ALWAYS on your side, and only wants the very best for you too. He’s the perfect parent who loves you unconditionally. Let me repeat that again for everyone who is reading. UN-conditionally. Nothing you ever do, think, or say can change that. Nothing you’ve ever done, thought, or said has ever shocked or surprised Him. He has NEVER rejected you, even when people who call themselves by His name have. Who am I, full of faults and mistakes, to reject you if He doesn’t??
I sincerely hope and trust that we’re still friends. And I know your kind hearts, and open minds, well enough to know that one more difference of opinion won’t change that for either of us.